Choices and Realistic Living

Szacunek do siebie to kontrola nad swoim czasem i nad tym w co go inwestujemy. Wciaz lapie sie nad tym, ze moj czas tak naprawde nie jest moj, ze czesto ludzie nie za bardzo go szanuja, lub sama  inwestuje go w mase aktywnosci, ktore w sumie prowadza do nikad. Dzisiejsze wybory, dzisiejsze decyzje ksztaltuja moja przyszlosc. Na ile sa one swiadome, zaplanowane? Na jednym z blogow znalazlam link do programu "Twenty Days of Realistic Living" - program ktory ma nam pomoc w zrozumieniu, ze niezaleznie od tego w jakim punkcie zycia jestesmy, mamy kontrole nad tym co sie w naszym zyciu dzieje. Ja wciaz nad tym musze pracowac. Wzrastalam w duzym poczuciu bezwolnosci, jak zreszta wiekszosc moich rowiesnikow wychowywanych w totalitarnym systemie. Sytuacja moja nie poprawila sie za bardzo gdy przyjechalam do USA uzalezniona  od mojej studenckiej wizy, uczelni ktora mnie zaprosila, a potem od pracy G. Bezwolnosc, bezradnosc, strach sa czesto moimi silami napedowym, ktore musze uczyc sie rozpoznawac i swiadomie rozbrajac. Gdzies wyczytalam ze wlasciwie dwiema silami napedowymi w naszym zyciu sa strach i milosc. Wszystkie inne, to pochodne tych sil. Ten program dwudziestu dni, ma pomoc w bardziej swiadomym zyciu. Troszke go sobie zmodyfikuje na swoje potrzeby:

A wiec zaczynam od jutra:

1. At some point today, take a bath or shower. So what if you took one yesterday or plan one tomorrow. Just do it; today.

2. Write two very brief emails or text messages thanking someone for something they did for you today.

Not one message; not four. Two. Can be as simple as "Thanks for your help with whatever."

3. Think of one person at your work, school, or home who you WILL see today.A person that you do not like, or someone who causes you anxiety or stress. At some point, while you are in their physical presence and looking at them, say these words silently in your mind twice to whatever God you like: "Please keep (Name of Person) safe and happy."

4. Every person that you talk to today, make eye contact with as you speak and listen to them. Keep eye contact for the entire exchange.Whether this person is the clerk at Publix, a fellow worker, or spouse. Every person; eye contact the entire time. You've really got to work at this one. Don't lose focus during the day. Every person. All the time.

5. Record your progress today.

6. Starting today, keep the receipts for everything your purchase. Everything! Even that coffee at the convenience store. For now, just put them all in an envelope.

7. Put $1.25 in cash in a glass on your bedstand. 

 

I am adding my extra tasks:

1. Don't eat after 6 PM

2. Get at least 60 minutes of exercises

3. Pack the lunches in the evening.

4. Meditate at least 15 minutes.